Transcending the Culturescape

I'm reading a great book right now called The Code of the Extraordinary Mind and I love how the author Vishen Lakhiani begins with the idea of taking a good critical look at the culture you grew up with and are surrounded by today. So much unhappiness, stagnation and dissatisfaction comes from accepting the notion "that's just how things are," without questioning the culture that has surrounded you. 

 From "The Code of the Extraordinary Mind"

From "The Code of the Extraordinary Mind"

Following along with popular cultural ideals feels safe, but this sense of safety comes at great cost. So many of us make choices based on a voice inside our heads that uses the word "should." The result of this is that we make choices not for our own growth and happiness but to appear a certain way to others. We spend money on superficial things like cars or clothing to make us look great on the outside while on the inside we're suffering. We study at the school we are supposed to, work at the job we are supposed to, marry who we are supposed to and plan to enjoy our lives after we retire. Along the way, we find ourselves stuck somewhere and think, how did I get here? This is the sort of stagnation passively riding along with our culture leads to, and why we have quarter-life and mid-life crises as a result.

Transcending the culture looks more like this:

 From "The Code of the Extraordinary Mind."

From "The Code of the Extraordinary Mind."

It's scary to go against the grain, to find yourself, to pursue your dreams. We naturally feel fear in the face of change. But just on the other side of that seemingly terrifying leap is a new life. You can be in control of your life. You can choose your own reality, gain mental strength, and experience peace, happiness and fulfillment every day. And over time as you grow, when you're in one of those scary dips, you will trust that growth is on the horizon and the fear will fade away. 

The purpose of life is to grow and to connect with others. From the day we are born we begin learning and connecting, as we learn to drink our mother's milk and look into her eyes. For me the counseling relationship is a metaphor for living, as I provide a human connection to my clients and stand beside them in their quest for growth. When the graph line of your life is flat I can help you find insight to kickstart it upward, and if you're in one of the valleys I can support you through to the other side. 

With gratitude,